“Sara” is 35 years old, single, bright, attractive, and very personable. Although she is generally social and outgoing, much of her free time this past year was spent remodeling her new home in the Highlands neighborhood in Denver. This charming and lively area—with its trendy restaurants, upscale pubs, remarkable galleries, and quaint boutiques—has been just outside her front door for over a year, but she has not had much time to enjoy it. So, with her remodeling project nearing completion, and the commencement of a new year, Sara has decided that it is time to get out there and start dating again.
Are Lawyers Intimidating?
Based on what I have told you so far about Sara, it is hard to believe that dating would be a problem for this young woman, right? Well, there is a catch. Sara is equally as comfortable in a courtroom as she is hanging drywall and wielding a hammer. Sara is a very successful divorce lawyer, and she has found that her chosen practice area is sometimes a bit intimidating to the men she meets.
Finding the Time to Date
The world of law, and especially family law, can seem cold and forbidding in the face of a new romance. And like many professions, the practice of law can be time consuming and attorney’s often work long hours during the week and on weekends. Her thriving practice can mean that Sara will stay up late to prepare for trial and get up early to coach her clients for a court appearance. Sara”has recently found that her demanding schedule is sometimes a problem for potential partners who have more time on their hands than she does.
While not all attorneys live for the opportunity to engage in full-blown debates with everyone they meet, Sara is a litigator who enjoys participating in lively conversations on a variety of topics. She also knows that sometimes a difference of opinion can turn into a heated dispute, and her ability to argue her point of view can be intimidating to someone who lacks her passion or verbal acuity.
Proceeding with Caution
Sara is an attorney who spends her day negotiating the best possible settlements for her clients. The nature of her practice area has given her a cautious approach to dating, and she now tends to proceed slowly before committing to a more serious relationship. But being a lawyer, she also likes to discuss things in a calm and rational manner and make a genuine effort to find workable solutions to any issue. Sara says that potential mates who are looking for the emotional whirlwind romance will be disappointed because she knows while falling hard and fast can be exhilarating, it can also blind us to some very harsh realities. She believes that taking things slowly is the best approach for her.
Work Hard, Play Hard
As an attorney who is passionate about her career, dating someone who is equally focused on his profession is important to Sara. She hopes to find a mate who has also adopted a “work hard, play hard” philosophy. Sara says that her perfect guy will like to engage in fun-filled activities on the weekend such as a night on the town, or even a weekend getaway. Although her demanding schedule might not appeal to some men, she knows that it will be just enough for the right man.
So, the house is almost finished, her career is flourishing, life is good, and Sara is ready to start dating. She is positive and hopeful about the year ahead and is looking forward to the possibility of sharing her life with someone new. Most importantly, Sara says that she “is not looking for the perfect man; she is just looking for a man who is perfect for her.”
By Heidi Culbertson, the Director of Marketing and Client Development for The Harris Law Firm in Denver. Originally from Los Angeles, CA, she is also the author of “Wisdom and Recipes, Things I Would Have Shared With My Daughter.”